Friday, June 1, 2012

WE CAN DO IT!

I would like to take a minute to blog about something that is a little out of the norm for strawberry mohawk.  My posts are normally filled with the pretty things in my life, the crafts, artwork, fashion and my baby.  But i'd like to write a little today about something that's very close to my heart. Woman's rights.  Specifically, how we as women, are viewed by others.

This is something that is always on the forefront of my mind, but a specific (and one could even say 'minor') incident is what triggered me to write about it today.

I've mentioned before that I'm a part of a social cycling group here in Austin.  Well, last night while on one of our huge bike rides, an older man rode by me and jokingly (or so I thought) said "I just want to grab your suspenders every time I ride by you," I replied with a laugh, but very clearly said "no, don't do that" and smiled.  Not more than five minutes later we were next to each other again and he grabbed my suspenders (on my backside, not front), slapped me with them and rode off.  I let out a sarcastic sounding "ha. ha." and was going to drop it. But, then my girlfriend katie reminded me "Andrea, you said 'no', that was inappropriate, remember your boundaries"  (wooo! go katie, huh?).  I thanked her and sped off to confront the man.  Which I did. Which I came off as a bitch for.
A minor incident, huh? But this is what is caused me to think:  In our society, as women, we are either viewed as a frigid bitch or ditzy slut (excuse my language if you find it offensive).  Those were the two options I had last night and I chose the former.

I believe we have these two options because these are the options the media gives us.  Not to get into politics, but remember the '08 election? Palin was the ditzy slut and Clinton was the frigid bitch.  And these were two women who were running for two of the highest offices our country has to offer.  If the media couldn't take them seriously, what chance do the rest of us have?

I'm writing this without a real solution to offer.  Other than let's take each other seriously.  Let's respect each other.  Let's vote for women. Let's go see movies directed by &/or written by women.  When we see young girls, let's not tell them how cute they, but rather ask them what they want to be when they grow up.  

On a positive note, this is why I love the blogging community.  I really feel like we are taking our image into our own hands.  I have women I look up to in the blogging world.  Women who own their own businesses. Women who make art.  Fashionistas who are not 5"11 and 100 lbs.  
Let's show the world that we are powerful women not to be messed with ... and this does not make us frigid bitches. ;)
so much love and appreciation,
andrea
<3

oh.. and here's a little rosie the riveter photo shoot for you! Including a rosie-nursing-mama for all my fellow breastfeeding moms out there struggling with our nursing rights and image! 


photography credit to: John Acker

59 comments:

  1. You ARE a smart & talented woman, but seriously...those pictures are ADORABLE (we ladies like to hear that, too, right? ;-P)! You look so pretty, and I am loving your hair color! And after nursing 2 babies, myself, I totally appreciate that shot :-). Great post!

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    1. thank you SO much! (yes, we totally like to hear it!) My boyfriend is a photographer, he does a good job at making me look good. <3

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  2. Love the nursing shot- I completely agree with you.

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  3. I am considered to be a bitch, an awful standing up for myself bitch.

    Here it is common that the guy goes in-front of you in a line because he is busier then you. Hell NO!

    It is common to be ass slapped/pinched/grabbed, boob stroked, grabbed, cat called constantly on the streets, being followed for many blocks trying to get your attention.

    I always ignore or answer with "leave me alone" which never work because I am trying to be "hard to get" which I am not. I as well tend to grab their hand that is on my but and twist it while I walk away.

    The problem I have here is whenever I do this the other women look at me and go "what, she thinks she is special" and I die a little bit on the inside.

    I have been cornered in a bar and there were other girls around and the guy was being awful, he was trying to take my clothes off (was wearing a hoodie) and none of the girls did anything, I was fighting tooth and nail and they just stood there and whispered to each other. He didn't stop until this other guy came over and tore him off me.

    I think it is a great idea to remind other women/girls out there to be nicer to each other and not so destructive.

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    1. thank you so much for your comment. And, hey! YOU are SPECIAL!!! ;)
      this all sounds so hard, but by you not willing to put up with such behavior, you are making a difference!
      so much love dearie!

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  4. You Rock!! I was raised by 4 strong-ass women(mom,2aunts and my kick-ass Grandmother) and my awesome Grandfather, most of the time women do not get a fair shake. That's thing: Not preferential, just equal and respected. Some women do things to propagate the stereotypes, this is no more reason to generalize than is to do it for men. I agree the media tries to make women fit into the neat little boxes they have, easier for the DUMB to understand without having to work too hard. Where are the modern day women suffragists, Gloria Steinems and bad-ass chicks in general? They are out there, it's just easier for society to overshadow with these stereotypes and put into the aforementioned boxes. Major achievements have been made, lots more to go, but seems like lately has been going backwards. This is also a major symptom of our society in general.
    I have no solutions, but hopefully can do my part to push these issues forward. Sometimes hard to tell, as man, if doing good/better or bad/worse. I'm not the one to judge.

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    1. noni, you are the best. it makes sense that you were raised by women :) AND, I think that you- as a man- are totally doing the good/better option! (and hopefully we'll see you soon!)

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  5. You are truly one of the most powerful beings (I mean as in a human not just a woman)that I love a respect wholeheartedly. That and you're flippin adorkable.

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    1. I love and respect you too! (and am honored you came by my little ol' blog to read this!)

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  6. Preach, sister! Boundaries have been on my mind a lot lately. Where does my experience stop and the other's start in an interaction like that? How do I uphold my boundaries without reacting in a way that doesn't come off as bitchy or meek, just firm and confident? I think it all come down to truth, being able to speak your truth with integrity... If I'm able to say what's on my mind in the moment, and keep it about me, it's neither bitchy nor meek (I don't want to be touched vs. I don't want to be touched you fucking asshole). How other people receive your truth is on them... Maybe conversations like this one will bring awareness for boundaries to the dip shits that can't keep their hands to themselves. Love you girl, well done!

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  7. Your blog makes me so, so happy. Every single post. You inspire me.

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    1. do you have a blog? if so, why don't I know it? you are such a phenomenal writer. AND such a women-rights-activist- inspiration to me!

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  8. Heck yes! and i love the nursing pic

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  9. During that election, I was a little ashamed that I bought into those caricatures.

    At school, I know of girls who seem to think of themselves as having to be either a bitch or a slut. They were raised to think those are the only options and we all would commiserate about it. But I don't feel like I am either. I never saw myself as either. I stand up for myself, but I am always kind. Even when I want to bitch slap somebody, I find it better to serve wit, sass or humor to turn tables.

    It is important to me to always maintain control over myself and my responses because I am effing pissed that all women are thought of as hormonal and pms-ing if we let our guard down for a second. I can't stand when girls use their periods as an excuse to treat people wrong. I mean, that's one reason why the Republican's think they can't trust us with decisions about our bodies. In part, we do it to ourselves.

    We need to stand up for ourselves. We have to take responsibility.

    Thank you for writing about this!

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  10. Andrea, the photo of you nursing baby redding just showed up on my newsfeed with 100 likes and over 50 really positive comments! You're kind of famous?! Hahaha I'm glad to see you and your family are doing well, I'll keep following your blog since I can't Facebook creep on you anymore!! Hahaha :)

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    1. yeah, it's going a little viral today, strange? I don't have a Facebook anymore so I can't see who posted it... but I am slightly curious!
      but, hey! I'm glad you made it over here! I hope you are doing well girl! <3

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  11. You are now Facebook famous! The nursing photo is out and viral!

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  12. Hi Andrea,

    Happened to hover over the fb ticker at just the right moment (not a habit of mine to pay attention to that part of fb)... A friend of mine had just "liked" a photo, your photo. Thought the image was striking, so I clicked on it and realized it was you! What a wonderful and empowering photo! Glad it is getting out there!!

    Seems like it was posted by New Wave Feminists - Has over 1700 shares and 1200 + likes so far. :)

    Jayma Compton

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    1. JAYMA!!!!!!!! hey! this is so awesome you are here. yeah, that's crazy about all the hits it's gotten... should've checked the grammar a little more carefully. ehh? you do what you can do :)
      so much love!
      <3
      a

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  13. New Wave Feminist posted it - apparently anti-choice group which is setting off some controversy.
    Lots of people shared the photo w/o realizing the groups intent- and now people are wondering about your blog.

    I love the photo and (by chance) linked directly to your blog because I try to direct link to the source.

    Cool photo!

    Jess

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    1. oh dear... that worries me a little as i am always and ever for a woman's right to choose. I did find it (thanks) and it looks like most people are just stoked on the breast feeding. So that's good, because I am always in favor of mamas milk!
      thanks jess! I really appreciate it!
      andrea

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    2. I found it on facebook through a friend and forwarded before I realized it was an anti-choice blog/site. Wish I could have just shared it from here. It is an amazing photo. Truly.

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  14. Ah, wonderful post. I saw your photo (the nursing one) floating around facebook (via kellymom.com) and found your blog. I hope you don't mind that I shared it on my blog and linked back to you. I'll be in Austin next week with my girls (visiting fam) and be (not so) secretly hoping I see you bicycling around. http://doublethink.us.com/paala/2012/06/27/rosie-the-breastfeeding-mama/

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    1. ahhhh! Thanks and enjoy austin!!! get those girls in a river/springs because it is hot hot here!

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  15. You may want to make a copyright disclaimer on your images. You may have posted this on the interwebz but you have rights to your own images. Do it now because this is blowing up fast! Copyright copyright copyright!

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    1. YES! thanks, we just did that. Thanks for the tip! <3

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  16. Found your photo on New Wave Feminist- I don't think anyone thinks you are affiliated with them at all but I've got to say - you are adorable! And hot! Great photo mama! :)

    ~Kristi
    breastfeeding, baby-wearing mom of 6

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    1. thanks kristi! I really appreciate you stopping by!
      (and dannnnnng! 6?!!!??? you are AWESOME!)

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  17. My best friend posted your nursing pic on Facebook--I absolutely love it. :) This whole breastfeeding business is ridiculous.

    And I do love your hair, and you and your pics are just lovely.

    --Shanna (I can't get it to let me sign in for some reason, weird)

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  18. Er, I should clarify and say the business with people being offended with breastfeeding, etc., is ridiculous.

    --Shanna

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  19. I saw your photo shared on facebook, wanted to know what was behind it and now I know about your awesome blog! I am breastfeeding my new baby as I type ('cause that's how I keep him quiet while I serf). Keep up the good work!
    Maggie from Canada.

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  20. How totally adorable are you??!! I can see why someone would want to snap your suspenders, but I would ask permission first. :D

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  21. Good morning. I love your Rosie breastfeeding shot.
    I work for the Oregn State WIC program and would love to use this shot in some of our breastfeeding module. How would you feel about that? If you are interseted/willing, I would need a signed rights/permission form signed from you. If you are interested, please contact me:
    Adrienne Paige Mullock, MPH, CHES, RYT
    Public Health Educator
    Oregon State WIC Program
    800 NE Oregon Street, Suite 865
    Portland, Oregon 97232-2162
    Telephone: (971) 673-0054
    Fax: (971) 673-0071
    adrienne.p.mullock@state.or.us

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    1. hey girl, I will send you an email about this! thanks!

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  22. I love the totally traditional yet nontraditional look! Rock on woman!

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  23. These pictures are awesome! Thank you for posting! I shared on facebook!

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  24. LOL, I'm a military guy who retired after 20 years and now work in the civilian sector. I love this blog. As it turns out, I happened to have had female officers as my boss for most of my career. It always seemed that whenever I wound up with a male officer over me, he would turn out to be a real ditz, while the females seemed more organized, more motivated, and more fit for the task. Live and learn, military or civilian I prefer women bosses over men.

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  25. You have the best dimples ever.

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    1. awh! thanks ... they're home made ;)
      well, you know from piercings. But, I enjoy them!
      <3

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  26. Saw your photo via facebook. I was hoping it was OK if I borrow it for a blog post (with a link back here). It's a beautiful picture and I wanted to share it in conjuction with this "Birth is not only about making babies. Birth is about making mothers; strong, competent, capable mothers who trust themselves and know their inner strength." ~ Barbara Katz Rothman

    Thanks in advance!

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    1. Deena! that sounds so great, I'd love to be on a blog post with that as the subject (so true!!!)
      thanks!!!
      andrea

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  27. Honestly, you're awesome! Love the look, love the post and adorable baby by the way. I have been poking around your blog and seriously, I could read every post. I'm so inspired right now! Love all your paint chip projects and the sweet baby's photo shoots. Oh, hes just to precious. I'm like giddy with your awesomeness:) Jamie
    wellnessandfamily.blogspot.com

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  28. I love these so much!! Too awesome!

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  29. I love how perfectly your photographs show how empowering motherhood (and especially breastfeeding) is. You just won yourself a new reader. =)

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  30. You kick much ass. Today was the perfect (could another thing possibly go wrong) day to find this photo and you. Thanks.

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  31. I was wondering if I could share one of your photos from this thread on our facebook page (Iowa Birth Activists). I would like to credit the photographer and the source, if you are alright with that. I appreciate your blog. Thank you.

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  32. I have seen these pictures floating around everywhere these days :) Just last week my friend was like "you have to see this picture" and I recognized it right away. You rock!

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  33. Omg just stumbled across you.....You f*@#en rock mama!!!

    xo the Rebel

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  34. Fantastic blog and fantastic photo shoot. I just love it when I find someone else who is equally as interested in fashion and feminism. The world would be a dull old place without either!

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    1. Totally! I'm so glad you think so as I definitely do as well!

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  35. hi! you look amazing and your kid is hella cute. i'm in college and we had to write an analysis essay; i was so inspired by your pic that i decided to base my analysis on your pic and breast feeding + feminism. u rock!

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    1. whoa! that's such an awesome compliment! thanks so much girl!

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  36. Hi Andrea,
    I hope that you will get this, since it is an older post. I am a WIC Director and IBCLC breastfeeding coordinator. I happened on the amazing photo of you and your baby while searching for material for breastfeeding empowerment. I see that you have some requests from other WIC programs to use your pic. I understand that it is copyrighted, but would like to discuss using the image for a breastfeeding module as well. If interest please contact me at
    WICClinton@odh.ohio.gov
    rlquallen@yahoo.com
    1-937-382-2862
    Thank you so much for your consideration and for promoting breastfeeding as the normal and empowering experience that it is.

    Awesome!

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